Houria Fangare
Most humans are vulnerable; they are susceptible and easily broken. They lose themselves and get stuck in the spiral of life. Some people break daily due to everyday struggles as deadlines, exams, or even traffic jams.
Their own expectations and peer pressure from their parents also contributes to their stress. At the end of day, they are exhausted, miserable and simply can’t keep up with life. Others; however, suffer every once in a while when a major life event, as the death of a loved one or losing their job, takes place. Bottom line is, life ends up breaking them.
On the other hand, some people never break. They’re resilient and able to recover from what we perceive as a disaster or a failure and try again. Those people are characterized by hardiness or have what is called “the hardy personality”. Don’t you wish you had that kind of personality?
Hardiness is a mindset that we all should try developing against our own distress due to life’s inevitable challenges. The key to the hardy personality is the three C’s: Challenge, Control, and Commitment.
Challenge is perceiving stressors, adversities, and hardships as challenges rather than disasters that endanger our security. We must try our best to grow and learn from whatever we go through, to step out of our comfort zones and know that it is okay to mourn life’s inevitable losses.
Control is tightly linked to challenge as you have to believe that you are in control, that you are not a helpless victim who is at the mercy of their own stressor, and whatever challenges you could win could help influence your course of life.
You can control the type of people you surround yourself with, be more conscious of the way you think or behave in a group with values contradictory to yours, do more exercise and care for your diet.
The more you control within yourself, the more you feel a sense of strength. However, as much as you’d like to control everything that goes on in your life, that’s not quite possible and only adds more to your stress. Thus, you should accept the fact that not everything can be controlled and let go.
Finally, commitment comes from having a sense of purpose and meaning in life. Setting your goals, working for them, staying inspired, and believing in yourself will make you thrive to finish the race instead of just survive it, even if you’re lagging behind.
Life is indeed challenging, but it’s inevitable, and defeat is merely optional.
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