Mohamed Moataz
Imagine yourself amid running a race. After a while you feel tired and debilitated. You look back and find that you have already cut half of the distance with diligence, persistence and determination.
Then you look forward and realize that you still have the other half of the distance left. At this specific point, you still have attained nothing. Will you succumb? Of course not.
The example I mentioned above is the closest to a teenager-adult dilemma. It is when you start wondering: What have I achieved in my life? What is the purpose of my life? How is my life going to be?
Suddenly, you feel that what was making you happy is no longer amusing you. You find that your previous interests are retreated notoriously. The way you think is evolving but you still do the same things you used to do with a less-developed mind! What a discrepancy! Now you are not happy anymore and when you try the things you used to do in these circumstances, you feel empty.
As a result, you feel that your life is such a burden and start to drastically doubt yourself and others all the time. Eventually you become a skeptical person. At this moment, regrettably, a rift will be formed in your character, a rift through which all psychological problems, we know today, will permeate.
Our dilemma here, unfortunately, is not easily perceived when it's happening to us. In addition, no one on earth will not go through it. The preponderance of us may go through without understanding or perceiving it, leaving the conditions of life to take the reins and only the lucky ones who will be sailed to safety by the ship of conditions.
But, we, the people of the 21st century, don't leave anything to luck and conditions. We are in the age of confrontation.As we all know, the most crucial step in solving any dilemma is knowing where does the hitch precisely lie, subsequently we can perceive it in our consciousness and see the full image clearly.
You might ask "What can I cultivate from all these words? How can I loose this tangle?"
The solution of this dilemma has both psychological and practical parts.
First, the psychological part: Just know the causes and sequences of the dilemma and more necessary is accepting it. In my opinion, that's the most important and robust part.
I can hear someone humming "How can I accept this phase?" My answer is that what are you going through is natural and it befell everyone. Furthermore, just reaching this way of thinking is a sure sign that you are maturating which in turn brings you a peaceful mind. You can't remain a teenager throughout your life.
Second, the practical part: Make your life a frenetic life. Search for new hobbies, learn new skills, take courses that help you in your social life, read books so you can know more about the new person you are becoming, make copious relationships and make a new relationship with yourself!
Finally, Don't pay attention to your obsessions that says you haven't done anything valuable in your life and that you can't be happy anymore. You are just getting mature.
Curb these obsessions by leveraging your free time in discovering your new interests, hobbies, skills and character. You still don't have huge responsibilities, you don't have to do great things, you are in the collection period of your life. All you need is to know yourself well and you'll see the prosperity of your life with your own eyes .
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